Bagi betis nak peha.Tolong sikit pastu kena tolong banyak.
It's ok kalo nak mintak tolong. I am very helpful person but please don't make it as compulsory to help you.
I think it become a culture already and almost everyone experience same thing.
Study case 1 :
You stay back to do extra work at office . It is not necessary, and the reason of u staying back just because u want to help your friends .
But this friends, first time maybe they feel grateful to you. Then you keep helping them and at last their perspective change. From grateful become bossy already.And keep blaming you for the work that they should do it by themselves. Telling the boss about you this and that. At last , all people in the office blaming you instead of them.
Study case 2 :
You are student.You involves in group project. Whenever meeting, other team members really hard to turn up. At last you end up doing the project alone, based on your judgement. While people study hard for final exam, you struggling with the project.
When the dateline is near, the sleepy team member suddenly turn up and ask u, " How's thing going on now?Why u did like that ? If u do like this before then ..."
You tell them and they are good listener. Only that they did, listen.
So end of the semester, you got just cukup makan for project, also just pass exam( cukup makan also because u focusing on the project only) , compare with your smart team members which got cukup makan mark for project (because they just depending to you) and great mark for exam.
You just cursing them in your heart, u never told your lecturer because it feel unprofessional and at last , you the one who suffer.
Guess what? that's why sometimes some people got really bright and colorful result but that only on the paper.they still depending on some stupid people on many ways.
Study Case 3
This one also normal situation. You lend some money to your friends and at last you look like poor beggar begging them to payback. Oii..pandai berhutang pandai la bayar.
"Isk ... budak ni, datang nak mintak hutang la ni .." And people see you as guilty again.