BIG NO

How many people face this type of issue?

I am friend of her for five years, any plan that I throw up only 5% accepted.But I need to put her in every my to do list, because if not,she going to mad and talk bad about me.Most of the people , ask me to be patient and always keep her in the loop,  some advice me to move on.At the end of the day, a lot of my plan not working out and I don't have many friends myself.It seem  like she the BOSS without I realize it.

They have BIG NO at their forehead.Anything you suggest/invite, their answer is 80% - 90% is NO.But when you decide NOT to put them in your plan,they will make loud to YOU usually by telling other people about you not invite/suggest or have concern about them.

In other word, they won't blame themselves because answering NO to every plan that you mentioned but they will make noise on the stuff that you not mention.In other word, even the answer is NO, it is your DUTY to ask them.It is very irritating sometimes[most of the times].

You can find this type everywhere in this world.I know that I should not worry about this, but because I feel irritating and this blog is therapy,so I am going to make noise here.

Instead of blaming people, why don't they make themselves available?Instead of waiting then mad, why not offer themselves to join?You're waiting alone over there, sulking because nobody invite you.Oh, such child like!! Why not you just ask other people -'Hey can I join the club?' If people say NO, then at least the reason to sulk is more acceptable.

Grow up a bit, if you always say NO, WTH you expect people will keep you always in the loop.Sometimes instead of  putting you in the loop and receive 'NO', better we go ahead and put other new people in the plan.So if you wanted something, you are responsible enough to yourself by creating or involving yourself into the plan.

DO NOT WAIT, THEN MAD AND BLAME OTHER PEOPLE and at end of the day.'See, nobody want to befriend with me!'

'Sorry, I can't make it'
'Sorry,I don't like this'
'Sorry,I busy..'
'Hey,don't you aware for all this time I m busy [for the rest of my life]!!!'

The excuse keep longer and longer .

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'Hey, what the hell you plan this without me?'
'Oh, because I tot you don't like this and that..'
'The hell... you should ask me first.Bla bla...' Then spread the news to other people so the whole world know.Or maybe skip dialog one and two but directly tell the whole world how evil your friend are by not putting you in the loop.Good friend always remember their friend no matter how bad they are right?Right?


It is better to be ...

'Sorry, I can't make it'
'Sorry,I don't like this'
'Sorry,I busy..'
'Hey,don't you aware for all this time I m busy [for the rest of my life]!!!'

The excuse keep longer and longer .

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'Hey, I heard you plan this and that.Can I join, I think I can make it'
'Yes'  The answer may be vary.But at least it give the solid reason to sulk or think.Or maybe, start plan something and invite your friend to join.That is much better.So at least, you are responsible enough to yourself.

Well to those who feel they are victim , MOVE ON GUYS!!Do whatever you think is valid,ignore the BIG NO opinion as long you feel it is right.

You are more positive, brighter than them.